It Is Not Everyday An Idoma Girl Marries A Tiv Man But It’s Not Uncommon…
So these wedding bells are very special as the couple’s #VIZRA2018 story
which I invite you to join me in celebrating their journey of love thus far…
In Makurdi, Benue State On Thursday 8th And Saturday 10th Of February, 2018.
Colors For Traditional Wedding;
Coral, White, Cream, Mint.
Date: Thursday February 8, 2018
Venue: Mr And Mrs Innocent B. Idoko’s Residence, 1st Avenue Tor Angwe Street, Demekpe, Makurdi, Benue State.
Colors For White Wedding;
Teal, Yellow, Grey.
Date: Saturday February 10, 2018
Venue: Christ Embassy Church, Benue Hotels, G.R.A Makurdi, Benue State.
Photo Credit: Benterah
This Story Will Be Updated After The Wedding… See You There.
It Was 38°C, I was sweating profusely and so were many other guests as Makurdi is a very hot town; but nobody seemed to care that much about the heat even though you could see them unconsciously fanning themselves. We just wanted to see the lovely bride come out in her first attire.
Alas she did and behold such a beautiful woman
adorned in her native attire of the idoma tribe wearing the infamous black and red dancing out in style,
Her groom is a man of pride,
and glory filled his heart as his eyes could not hide all the emotions seeing his beautiful damsel had triggered,
He sprayed her with bills in such a way that made the unmarried men wish they were him
and single girls like myself fantasized about our own wedding day praying it is filled with the kind of love as rich as #VIZRA2018.
They danced a little bit more
and traditional rites were perfomed; Don’t worry MSJ Lovers, i promise to share with you in deets all the traditional rites performed when my own wedding day comes as the bride and i are of the same cultural background.
Finally all traditional rites where concluded and the couple were joined accordingly to cultural values and rituals and they shared a kiss over their beautiful cake…
item seven was duely and abundantly exercised,
Family and guests took turns taking pictures
with beautiful couple in their gorgeous final attire.
( item seven is a popular saying refering to refreshment in Nigerian events.)
And the occasion was ended with the couple dancing till fade…
On Friday the 9th of february the bachelor’s eve was held at Ace Of Spades Lounge, this was my first time there and i never knew makurdi had such lofty lounge; that is a long way from Ngbede’s place popularly known as the Exclusive Lounge to the days of District Four aka D4. I was very impressed at the ambiance because, finally there’s an establishment befitting of being called a Lounge/Nightclub as the town never had any functional during my stay as a student in university of Agriculture, Makurdi.
Alas! The D-Day; The 10th of february 2018.
Ironically, or rather, contrary to popular believe among folks, most Africans think traditional weddings
and white weddings ( as they call it here)
are two different neccessary rites… meanwhile the truth is that; or rather as i believe, they are both thesame as pertaining to the respective cultures involved ( that is African and European ) But i personally don’t think it is a bad idea to have both weddings as during the traditional wedding (which is according to our own cultural rites) some activities which may not be considered as “godlike” are performed.
Hence, in my opinion, the church wedding (European Wedding) is required or rather neccessary as a way of inviting God into your matrimony thereby making it Holy.
This invitation for me, therefore dissolves any traditional rites that are not in accordance to one’s faith or that are not Christlike in any way.
So, it was time for the church wedding, we waited patiently for the beautiful bride to make her entrance down the isle
and as expected, it was another hot day
( believe me i do not exaggerate how really hot this town is for it feels like one of the doorways to hell, For this is sincity as the king of onions and his peers would call Makurdi ). Lol, please don’t ask me what onions means in this context and who the king is, the reference is only for those that know…a little hint tho; ask any of the groomsmen and you might just be in the “know” as well.
The ceremony was held at the pool side of Benue Hotels And Resort, it was brief and insightful.
The reception was moved
to the event centre of Benue hotel and resort, within the premises let’s say about a kilometer or less away from the poolside where the church service was held.
The canopy was enclosed and poorly ventilated
(apparently management did not take the proper precussions and arrangement neccessary to have the hall ready and befitting of such event even after they had been paid accordingly).
This; Maintenance is one major issue with many establishments in Nigeria.
I wondered why everything didn’t just take place by the pool side where we were surrounded by several trees and palms,
that provided some sort of coolness we all enjoyed during the church ceremony that made people forget for a bit how hot the day was… but after seeing the decor I guess I could say I understand #VIZRA2018’s choice.
Anyways despite the evil nature of the heat descending on us, (Global warming is damnding) it was a beautiful reception
filled with love,
the best man and the grooms men were spectacular in making sure every dealings and affairs of the ceremony were duly and smoothly carried out.
After all the jollying,
i finally got a private time with the couple
to ask my FAQ ( Frequently Asked Questions). I practically spent the first 30minutes begging for cake
*covers face* ( yeah yeah sue me, it is not my fault i love cake so much, lol).
I started with the lovely bride,
as you know the popular saying; “Ladies First”
- How did you guys meet?
We met on Facebook. She said, He doesn’t like me telling people that though (he says it makes us sound unserious). We actually almost met on the 23rd of December, 2013. I was at the bank with a friend when she asked me to see ‘one fine man’.
I turned to look but the fine man had walked away. Few days later, this fine man coincidentally sent me a request on Facebook, I accepted, we got chatting and the rest is history
- What made you agree to go out with him?
His intellect. His Ambition
- What is your idea of a perfect date?
Chemistry! That’s all I need for a perfect date. Just the two of us,
dim lights, soft music, no distractions.
- What would you say is your favorite memory of him?
The first day we met. It was our first date. He was just a gentleman,
said the nicest things to me.
- When did you realize you were gonna marry him?
Well, it didn’t come at once. I didn’t just wake up one day with thoughts of spending the rest of my life with him. It took time and acts of love and kindness.
I realized that I just can’t do without the one man that loves me silly.
- What qualities do you admire about him the most?
He is the kindest soul I know. His thoughtfulness, his intellect. He is also very hardworking and ambitious. Can I just say he’s a total package?
- What is your most favorite feature of him?
Between his eyes and his legs, I don’t know which is my most favourite.
- What do you not like about his family?
So far, nothing. But given how large the family is growing, we could use a little more closeness and togetherness to strengthen our bond as one family
What TV parent do you wanna be like?
I admire Will & Jada Smith a lot.
- Who is your celebrity crush?
Wande Coal is my husband’s rival. She laughed and looked at her husband as she said this.
What is the one thing you hope to achieve in marriage?
I hope and pray that my marriage helps me achieve God’s purpose in my life, as I also help my husband fulfil God’s purpose in his life.
- The house chore you hate to do the most would be?
It has to be sweeping.
- A belonging of his you’d get rid of if you can would be?
A certain black kaftan
What color of socks did your husband wear for your white wedding?
What is the most outrageous thing you did to show him you liked him?
Not really outrageous but quitting a job.
- What is your dream job?
Being CEO of my own make-up and fashion line
- What would you say you love most about his family?
They’re very welcoming and hospitable. They’re also very religious.
- What was your most favorite moment during the traditional, Church and reception?
For the traditional, my favorite was when I saw him walk in for the first time (in my heart, I was like there goes my husband),
White was when we said our vows,
reception was the couple dance.
- What would you do differently if you had the chance to do it over?
I believe in God’s plan for my life. However it happened must have been God’s plan and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
- Your advice to future brides on dating and marriage would be?
I feel there are no rules in dating, just follow your heart, always. Let love lead.
He was blushing and couldn’t wait to answer his, so i hit him with them right on.
- Where did you meet this lovely jewel?
He said, with a straight face with a tone of slight embarrassment almost as if it were a bad or forbidden thing.
- What is your idea of a perfect date?
“Stimulate my mind with smart talks, strengthen my spirit – motivate us” A garden or forest with birds tweeting. (I’m wild, she’s mild) I know.
- What was the most interesting thing you did to get her to like you?
I am an open book, I let her see through me. Amidst oppositions and trash talkers, I let “good” prove itself to always win. So does love- it always wins.
- When did you realize you love her and you were gonna ask her to marry you?
When I saw that she looked through me as an open book, looked beyond my flaws, she was ready for a whole new world right from the get go. I never held back from the start, never had a second thought.
- What qualities do you admire about her the most?
Her beautiful soul.
I can’t stay mad at her. Her body! Complete. He said as he looked at her with such admiration.
- What do you love about her family?
We are from two different ethnic groups, may take a while to integrate fully but we are Christians and we have Christ at the center of it all. It’s all we need as a common ground. The rest is for us to make conscious efforts to bond.
- Which celebrity do you admire?
- What is one thing you hope to achieve in marriage?
Achieve God’s purpose for our lives.
- What is the favorite thing you bought together?
Our HD TV
- Your least favorite house chore would be?
A belonging of hers you’d get rid of if you can, would be?
Torn old red sweat shirt
- What flavour of cake did you have at your wedding?
Vanilla and bubblegum
How did you guys pick the colors for your wedding?
I am bad with colours. I let her choose.
- What was your most favorite moment at traditional, Church and reception?
Traditional – When she processed in different attire, made me proud. Gave me an opportunity to show how much value I place on my wife and how priceless she is. Church was when She said her vows.
reception was… the “bridal” dance.
- What do you say you regret about your day? Something you didn’t do or something you did.
I under estimated my guests. Didn’t plan enough gifts for all my guests.
- What is your advice to future grooms?
Live above your problems, look beyond the problems, prepare, see nothing as a problem. – Dear future groom, your woman is enough,
she has no problem,
you both have no problem, there is no problem that can not be solved. Get married already!
Zee is a blessed man to have found such a loving, submissive yet independently strong lady as Victoria; For the bible in Proverbs 18:22 says; He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains goodwill from Jehovah.
We shared jokes, stories and enjoyed wonderful laughs. The passion they shared made me and any one who saw them want to settle down so bad as their love is so real and overwhelming.
More photos of the couples and friends, family and guests were taken.
Above all, I am grateful to have been granted the privilege of sharing #VIZRA2018’s Love Story with you all.XO….Slainte 🍷
Photo credit: Aleva Photography uickie:
Marriage Is A Divine Institution That Requires The Union Of A Man And Woman To Live Together As Husband And Wife According To The Standard Set Out In The Holy Scriptures, Hence Which Better Book But The Bible To Seek Out Guidance In Improving Marriage?
What Can Help To Improve A Marriage?
- Studying God’s Word together regularly and praying to God for help in resolving problems.—2 Tim. 3:16, 17; Prov. 3:5, Phil. 4:6, 7.
- Appreciating the principle of headship. This puts a heavy responsibility on the husband. ( 1 Cor. 11: 3; Eph. 5: 25-33; Col. 3:19) It also calls for earnest effort on the part of the wife.—Eph. 5:22-24, 33; Col. 3:18; 1 Pet. 3: 1-6.
- Speaking in a kindly, considerate manner to each other; avoiding outbursts of anger, nagging, and harsh critical remarks.—Eph. 4:31, 32; Prov. 15:1; 20:3; 21:9; 31:26, 28.
- Confining sexual interests to one’s mate. ( Prov. 5: 15-21; Heb. 13:4) Loving Concern for the needs of one’s mate can help to safeguard that one against temptation to wrong-doing.—1 Cor.7:2-5.
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