#denimandwhitechallenge #mysuccessstory

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  1. You have to be following @msjlifestyle
  2. You need a pro-picture of you wearing a denim of your choice and white
  3. Write your success story stating any goal(s) you’ve achieved and would like to share with the world
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  5. @msjlifestyle will repost from your page


  • The three photos with the highest likes will be published on the website 
  • The photo with the highest likes also gets a giftpack 
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Shaggy And 6goddess At #JBC

I’m not going to even say so much about how awesome this day went…i’m just gonna let the scenery and the view

tickle your imagination about the kind of day i must have had, especially since i spent it with Shaggythementalist

As we’re both stout lovers we started by ordering a bottle each,

i wanted extrasmooth but they only had african special and medium stout so i had medium and amstel malt, it won’t give you that extrasmooth rich smoothness in taste but atleast it works in the absence of the preferred.

We drank, made more snaps and took many pictures…

Finally food arrives…

i had fried rice and barbecued chicken,

i love the abundant sauce dripping off with the sprinkled sesame all over it…

the sour smokey taste is what i love the most about the chicken, which is why i always eat their chicken with anything else.

The food wasn’t the greatest but considering that it’s a new spot, let’s just say there’s room for improvement…

but you know me once i find a meal on the menu that i enjoy about a place, be rest assured that’s the only meal you will see me eating there until someone suggest there’s been change or improvement in services or maybe they just have that one meal they also come to eat that’s as good as mine.

we enjoyed our meal, caught up some more…

took more pictures

and moved the party elsewhere.

This is a good tourist location,

Jabi Boat Club is a woodhouse bar and restaurant with incredible ambiance; this makes it a perfect spot for outdoor birthday breakfasts, luncheons and family dinners. It is also children friendly.


Other Activities Include water adventure.

Address: 26 Alex Ekwueme Way, Nera Hotel Waterfront, Jabi District, Abuja, Nigeria

Post Code: 900001

Enquiries: #jbc

Mobile number: +234 808099289

Frienship With A Scorpio Called Joyner

“I Am Not A Regular Girl…”

I Always Tried To Fit In A New Circle Or Place But Even That Crumbles Eventually… This Is Rarely Due To My Strong Personality Or Maybe It Is; I’ve Been Told My Confidence Can Be Intimidating.

Zodiac Signs Don’t Tell You Exactly How Someone’s Gonna Act All The Time But They Give You A Topography Of Their General Feelings And What Drives Them.

As A Scorpio; I Love Intensely, I Am Brutally Honest And Extremely Loyal, Doesn’t Mean I Get This Reciprocated Often But I Don’t Change Because This Is The Very Things That Make Me Who I Am; 6goddess! Even If I Wanted To, I Wouldn’t Know How To Be Anything Else. Things That People Go Through Hell And Back Just To Achieve, I Get It Without Breaking A Sweat; This Is Not By My Might, It’s By The Grace Of My Divine Father Jehovah And I Am Always Grateful Which Is Why I’ve Dedicated My Life To Him. He’s Always Faithful.

And Things People Get Without Breaking A Sweat I Have To Fight Tooth And Nail For. The Most Common Example Is Something I Offer Freely, Loyalty. My Loyalty Is Unwavering But I Have To Fight The Devil Everytime To Get My Due.

My Mystery Leaves People Creating Different Impressions Of Me And I’ve Been Many Things To Different People.

The Ones I Showed My Dark Side I Feel Truly Sorry For, Because I’m Always Gonna Be That Scar On Your Heart… And The Ones That Have Felt My Love In Its Depth, May Not Like It But Are Stuck With Me For Life Because They Know Deep Down They Can Never Feel A Love Like This With Anybody Else.

I Am Unique Took Me Too Many Tragedies And Betrayals To Finally Understand What This Means. I Am Fully Aware Of My Power And Weakness. I Do Not Crave The Regular Things My Peers Or People Around Me Crave.

My Alter Ego Always Likes To Stand Out. I Yearn For Spiritual Depth As It The Only Way To Balance My Mystery Without Seeming Insane.

Don’t Try To Understand Me Just To Love Me, (Even I Can’t Tell You I Absolutely Understand Myself)

Love Me And You Will Find Out All That You ‘Need’ To; I Do Not Make Friends Easy Because I Am Self-Sufficient, It’s How I Was Raised. I Am 6goddess And I Believe Not Everyone Is Worthy Of Me. But If You Do Call Yourself My Friend, I EXPECT Certain Things Like Your Loyalty And Support. ( I Don’t Expect It To Be Unwavering Because That’s My Part ) But I Demand It! Otherwise; What Is Friendship?Friendship Is A Complex Topic Hence The Reason This Post Is Gonna Be Split Into Three(3) Parts And Will Be Spaced Over Time.

  1. What Is Friendship And Its Benefits?
  2. Types And Kinds Of Friendsip Both Positive And Dysfunctional.
  3. Divorcing A Friend Whether Good Or Bad.

WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP AND ITS BENEFITS? (PART ONE) This First Part Of The Post Is Basically Gonna Be The Shortest Of Them All, Due To Preamble.

My Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary “Special Price Edition” Specifically The 6th Edition Defines Friendship As A Relationship Between Friends. It Further Defines Relationship As”The Way In Which Two People, Groups Or Countries Behave Towards Each Other Or Deal With Each Other.”

You Won’t Believe The Example Sited In The Usage Of Friendship Has My Name In It, Amazing Right? I know; The Universe Has Its Way Of Always Being In Tune With Me.

Anyways My Favourite Definition Is That Of Wikipedia (I Love Wiki Because Its Facts Are Authentic). It Describes “Frienship As A Relationship Of Mutual Affection Between People, It Is A Stronger Form Of Interpersonal Bond Than An Association.

Friendship Is A State Of Mutual Trust Between Two Parties. For The Sake Of Clarity, Let Us Define The Word “Mutual”

Mutual, Used To Describe Feelings That Two Or More People Have For Each Other Equally, Or Actions That Affect Two Or More People Equally. Key Synonym Is Reciprocal.

Who Is A Friend? Different People Make Different Friends For Many Reasons. A Friend: Is A Person With Whom One Has A Bond Of Mutual Affection,Typically One Exclusive Of Sexual Or Family Relations. So If Someone Calls You Their Friend Or You Call Them Your Friend And It Appears One Seem To Be Offering More Than The Other, That Right There Is Not A Mutual Relationship ( Unfortunately This Is The Kind Of Friendship That Prevails In Our Generation.

“Don’t Support Me If You Don’t Want To, It Won’t Negate From My Friendship With You. Believe Me, It’s Not An Obligation. I will Give It If I Decide To. Support Isn’t Demanded; It’s ‘Earned’, It’s A Choice That Should Be Freely Available To ‘Anyone’ To Decide. ‘People’ Should Not Feel Obligated To Supporting You, You Only Have To Ask And If They Say No, Respect It. And That’s Even On An Holistic Level.”

These Were The Words Of An Aquaintance Whom We Happen To Have A Lot Of Mutual Friends In Common Said To Me When I Complained About Not Being Supported As Much As I Have Supported Her.

Newsflash: It Does Negate Friendship Beacuse Every Word In That Statement Defiles The Meaning And Respect Of The Word FRIEND!

The Irony Is That This Aquaintance Has Used The Word Friend With Me Many More Times Than I Can Ever Recall Referring To Her As That, If I Wasn’t Quoting Her, Yet I Support Her In My Own Little Way Absolutely.

Quickie: An Aquaintance Is A Person One Knows Slightly, But Who Is Not A Close Friend.

You Know My Response To That Statement? *In Mila’s Voice* I Was Too Shook And I Literally Had Mila’s Expression In My Head When I Said;

Don’t Insult Me And Call Me “Friend” And Still Type All Those Things Up There, It’s Not Very Nice Beacause That’s Not How I Treat People I Call Friends.

It Was A Clear Insult To My Intelligence Because As Stated Above, Friendship Is A Mutual Relationship And Every Line She Said Negates The Mutual Respect Calling Someone Your Friend Demands.

Quickie: Demand, An Insistent And Peremptory Request, Made As If By Right. Synonym; Request, Call, Stipulation, Urge E.T.C

I Admire This Girl Alot I Thought To Myself, I Love Her Amazing Work Ethics, Her Passion And Her Zeal To Break Grounds And Forge Ahead Formidably But Who Does She Think I Am Or Who Does She Think She Is To Call Me Friend And Then Tell Me I Have To Earn Her Support When I Have Given Mine Freely Without Her Asking And I Don’t Even Call Her Friend Yet. Where Is The Mutual Understanding? I Found It Highly Manipulative ( Manipulative Friendship Is A Type Of Friendship That Will Be Discussed In Part II , But In The Mean Time, You Can Google It To Get An Idea Of My Usage.)

BENEFITS OF FRIENDSHIP The Major Characteristics Of Friendship Are;

Kindness, Love, Virtue, Sympathy, Empathy, Honesty, Altruism, Loyalty, Mutual Understanding And Compassion.

There Are Many Benefits Of Friendship Generally Expressed That Are Of Common Importance Besides Personal Experiences…Which Are;

  • Enjoyment Of Each Other’s Company.
  • Trust, And The Ability To Be Oneself Freely.
  • To Be Able To Express One’s Feelings To Others And Make Mistakes Without Fear Of Judgement From Friend.

Studies Show That Social Support Gained Through Friendship Improves A Woman’s Prospects For Good Health And Longetivity. Conversly, Loneliness And A Lack Of Social Support Has Been Linked To An Increased Risk Of Heart Disease, Viral Infection And Cancer (Yes Cancer!!!)

You Know Those “Mini Heart Attacks” A Bad Friend (Another Type Of Friendship To Be Discussed In Part II) Gives You, That You Whisper To Yourself ‘It’s Not That Deep’ Oh Well Darling, Turns Out It is As Deep As Higher Mortality Rates Over All.

Friendship Networks = Behavioral Vaccines. These Behavioral Vaccines Boost Both Phsyical And Mental Health.Good Friendship Improve Health (To Be Discussed In Part II). Friends Encourage Healthy Lifestyles And Directly Contributes To Self-esteem, Self-confidence, And Social Development. Part II Will Shed More Light And Explain Why We Need Best Friends.

Never Befriend A Scorpio If You Can’t Handle The Venom When She Stings.!


  • My Personal Experiences
  • Wikipedia
  • Reasoning From The Scriptures (JW.org)
  • Pinterest

I Will Be Collecting Pro-Pictures Of Best Friends For Part II; So If You Are Interested You Can Send Your Entries To MSJ Special Credit For Goofy Pictures And Real Emotions Applies… Sláinte.🍷 XO.

Victoria And Ezra Tell Their Love Story#VIZRA2018

It Is Not Everyday An Idoma Girl Marries A Tiv Man But It’s Not Uncommon…

So these wedding bells are very special as the couple’s #VIZRA2018 story

which I invite you to join me in celebrating their journey of love thus far…

Without further ado, I announce the engagement and wedding of Victoria Oka Idoko And Ezra Zahemen Ade

In Makurdi, Benue State On Thursday 8th And Saturday 10th Of February, 2018.


Colors For Traditional Wedding;

Coral, White, Cream, Mint.

Date: Thursday February 8, 2018

Venue: Mr And Mrs Innocent B. Idoko’s Residence, 1st Avenue Tor Angwe Street, Demekpe, Makurdi, Benue State.

Colors For White Wedding;

Teal, Yellow, Grey.

Date: Saturday February 10, 2018

Venue: Christ Embassy Church, Benue Hotels, G.R.A Makurdi, Benue State.







Photo Credit: Benterah

This Story Will Be Updated After The Wedding… See You There.

It Was 38°C, I was sweating profusely and so were many other guests as Makurdi is a very hot town; but nobody seemed to care that much about the heat even though you could see them unconsciously fanning themselves. We just wanted to see the lovely bride come out in her first attire.

Alas she did and behold such a beautiful woman

adorned in her native attire of the idoma tribe wearing the infamous black and red dancing out in style,

Her groom is a man of pride,

and glory filled his heart as his eyes could not hide all the emotions seeing his beautiful damsel had triggered,

He sprayed her with bills in such a way that made the unmarried men wish they were him

and single girls like myself fantasized about our own wedding day praying it is filled with the kind of love as rich as #VIZRA2018.

They danced a little bit more

and traditional rites were perfomed; Don’t worry MSJ Lovers, i promise to share with you in deets all the traditional rites performed when my own wedding day comes as the bride and i are of the same cultural background.

Finally all traditional rites where concluded and the couple were joined accordingly to cultural values and rituals and they shared a kiss over their beautiful cake…

item seven was duely and abundantly exercised,

Family and guests took turns taking pictures

with beautiful couple in their gorgeous final attire.

( item seven is a popular saying refering to refreshment in Nigerian events.)

And the occasion was ended with the couple dancing till fade…

On Friday the 9th of february the bachelor’s eve was held at Ace Of Spades Lounge, this was my first time there and i never knew makurdi had such lofty lounge; that is a long way from Ngbede’s place popularly known as the Exclusive Lounge to the days of District Four aka D4. I was very impressed at the ambiance because, finally there’s an establishment befitting of being called a Lounge/Nightclub as the town never had any functional during my stay as a student in university of Agriculture, Makurdi.

Alas! The D-Day; The 10th of february 2018.

Ironically, or rather, contrary to popular believe among folks, most Africans think traditional weddings

and white weddings ( as they call it here)

are two different neccessary rites… meanwhile the truth is that; or rather as i believe, they are both thesame as pertaining to the respective cultures involved ( that is African and European ) But i personally don’t think it is a bad idea to have both weddings as during the traditional wedding (which is according to our own cultural rites) some activities which may not be considered as “godlike” are performed.

Hence, in my opinion, the church wedding (European Wedding) is required or rather neccessary as a way of inviting God into your matrimony thereby making it Holy.

This invitation for me, therefore dissolves any traditional rites that are not in accordance to one’s faith or that are not Christlike in any way.

So, it was time for the church wedding, we waited patiently for the beautiful bride to make her entrance down the isle

and as expected, it was another hot day

( believe me i do not exaggerate how really hot this town is for it feels like one of the doorways to hell, For this is sincity as the king of onions and his peers would call Makurdi ). Lol, please don’t ask me what onions means in this context and who the king is, the reference is only for those that know…a little hint tho; ask any of the groomsmen and you might just be in the “know” as well.


The ceremony was held at the pool side of Benue Hotels And Resort, it was brief and insightful.

The reception was moved

to the event centre of Benue hotel and resort, within the premises let’s say about a kilometer or less away from the poolside where the church service was held.

The canopy was enclosed and poorly ventilated

(apparently management did not take the proper precussions and arrangement neccessary to have the hall ready and befitting of such event even after they had been paid accordingly).

This; Maintenance is one major issue with many establishments in Nigeria.

I wondered why everything didn’t just take place by the pool side where we were surrounded by several trees and palms,

that provided some sort of coolness we all enjoyed during the church ceremony that made people forget for a bit how hot the day was… but after seeing the decor I guess I could say I understand #VIZRA2018’s choice.

Anyways despite the evil nature of the heat descending on us, (Global warming is damnding) it was a beautiful reception

filled with love,

the best man and the grooms men were spectacular in making sure every dealings and affairs of the ceremony were duly and smoothly carried out.

After all the jollying,

i finally got a private time with the couple

to ask my FAQ ( Frequently Asked Questions). I practically spent the first 30minutes begging for cake

*covers face* ( yeah yeah sue me, it is not my fault i love cake so much, lol).

I started with the lovely bride,

as you know the popular saying; “Ladies First”

  • How did you guys meet?

We met on Facebook. She said, He doesn’t like me telling people that though (he says it makes us sound unserious). We actually almost met on the 23rd of December, 2013. I was at the bank with a friend when she asked me to see ‘one fine man’.

I turned to look but the fine man had walked away. Few days later, this fine man coincidentally sent me a request on Facebook, I accepted, we got chatting and the rest is history

  • What made you agree to go out with him?

His charm.

His intellect. His Ambition

  • What is your idea of a perfect date?

Chemistry! That’s all I need for a perfect date. Just the two of us,

dim lights, soft music, no distractions.

  • What would you say is your favorite memory of him?

The first day we met. It was our first date. He was just a gentleman,

said the nicest things to me.

  • When did you realize you were gonna marry him?

Well, it didn’t come at once. I didn’t just wake up one day with thoughts of spending the rest of my life with him. It took time and acts of love and kindness.

I realized that I just can’t do without the one man that loves me silly.

  • What qualities do you admire about him the most?

He is the kindest soul I know. His thoughtfulness, his intellect. He is also very hardworking and ambitious. Can I just say he’s a total package?

  • What is your most favorite feature of him?

Between his eyes and his legs, I don’t know which is my most favourite.

  • What do you not like about his family?

So far, nothing. But given how large the family is growing, we could use a little more closeness and togetherness to strengthen our bond as one family

What TV parent do you wanna be like?

I admire Will & Jada Smith a lot.

  • Who is your celebrity crush?

Wande Coal is my husband’s rival. She laughed and looked at her husband as she said this.

What is the one thing you hope to achieve in marriage?

I hope and pray that my marriage helps me achieve God’s purpose in my life, as I also help my husband fulfil God’s purpose in his life.

  • The house chore you hate to do the most would be?

It has to be sweeping.

  • A belonging of his you’d get rid of if you can would be?

A certain black kaftan

What color of socks did your husband wear for your white wedding?


What is the most outrageous thing you did to show him you liked him?

Not really outrageous but quitting a job.

  • What is your dream job?

Being CEO of my own make-up and fashion line

  • What would you say you love most about his family?

They’re very welcoming and hospitable. They’re also very religious.

  • What was your most favorite moment during the traditional, Church and reception?

For the traditional, my favorite was when I saw him walk in for the first time (in my heart, I was like there goes my husband),

White was when we said our vows,

reception was the couple dance.

  • What would you do differently if you had the chance to do it over?

I believe in God’s plan for my life. However it happened must have been God’s plan and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

  • Your advice to future brides on dating and marriage would be?

I feel there are no rules in dating, just follow your heart, always. Let love lead.

He was blushing and couldn’t wait to answer his, so i hit him with them right on.

  • Where did you meet this lovely jewel?


He said, with a straight face with a tone of slight embarrassment almost as if it were a bad or forbidden thing.

  • What is your idea of a perfect date?

“Stimulate my mind with smart talks, strengthen my spirit – motivate us” A garden or forest with birds tweeting. (I’m wild, she’s mild) I know.

  • What was the most interesting thing you did to get her to like you?

I am an open book, I let her see through me. Amidst oppositions and trash talkers, I let “good” prove itself to always win. So does love- it always wins.

  • When did you realize you love her and you were gonna ask her to marry you?

When I saw that she looked through me as an open book, looked beyond my flaws, she was ready for a whole new world right from the get go. I never held back from the start, never had a second thought.

  • What qualities do you admire about her the most?

Her beautiful soul.

I can’t stay mad at her. Her body! Complete. He said as he looked at her with such admiration.

  • What do you love about her family?

We are from two different ethnic groups, may take a while to integrate fully but we are Christians and we have Christ at the center of it all. It’s all we need as a common ground. The rest is for us to make conscious efforts to bond.

  • Which celebrity do you admire?

Denzel Washington

  • What is one thing you hope to achieve in marriage?

Achieve God’s purpose for our lives.

  • What is the favorite thing you bought together?


  • Your least favorite house chore would be?


A belonging of hers you’d get rid of if you can, would be?

Torn old red sweat shirt

  • What flavour of cake did you have at your wedding?

Vanilla and bubblegum

How did you guys pick the colors for your wedding?

I am bad with colours. I let her choose.

  • What was your most favorite moment at traditional, Church and reception?

Traditional – When she processed in different attire, made me proud. Gave me an opportunity to show how much value I place on my wife and how priceless she is. Church was when She said her vows.

reception was… the “bridal” dance.

  • What do you say you regret about your day? Something you didn’t do or something you did.

I under estimated my guests. Didn’t plan enough gifts for all my guests.

  • What is your advice to future grooms?

Live above your problems, look beyond the problems, prepare, see nothing as a problem. – Dear future groom, your woman is enough,

she has no problem,

you both have no problem, there is no problem that can not be solved. Get married already!

Zee is a blessed man to have found such a loving, submissive yet independently strong lady as Victoria; For the bible in Proverbs 18:22 says; He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains goodwill from Jehovah.

The Dj throws in Sunny Neji’s classical wedding song #Oruka per request of yours truly; which you can get as caller tune on your MTN sims by simply texting 006162 to 4100.

We shared jokes, stories and enjoyed wonderful laughs. The passion they shared made me and any one who saw them want to settle down so bad as their love is so real and overwhelming.

More photos of the couples and friends, family and guests were taken.

Above all, I am grateful to have been granted the privilege of sharing #VIZRA2018’s Love Story with you all.XO….Slainte 🍷

Photo credit: Aleva Photography uickie:

Marriage Is A Divine Institution That Requires The Union Of A Man And Woman To Live Together As Husband And Wife According To The Standard Set Out In The Holy Scriptures, Hence Which Better Book But The Bible To Seek Out Guidance In Improving Marriage?

What Can Help To Improve A Marriage?

  • Studying God’s Word together regularly and praying to God for help in resolving problems.—2 Tim. 3:16, 17; Prov. 3:5, Phil. 4:6, 7.
  • Appreciating the principle of headship. This puts a heavy responsibility on the husband. ( 1 Cor. 11: 3; Eph. 5: 25-33; Col. 3:19) It also calls for earnest effort on the part of the wife.—Eph. 5:22-24, 33; Col. 3:18; 1 Pet. 3: 1-6.
  • Speaking in a kindly, considerate manner to each other; avoiding outbursts of anger, nagging, and harsh critical remarks.—Eph. 4:31, 32; Prov. 15:1; 20:3; 21:9; 31:26, 28.
  • Confining sexual interests to one’s mate. ( Prov. 5: 15-21; Heb. 13:4) Loving Concern for the needs of one’s mate can help to safeguard that one against temptation to wrong-doing.—1 Cor.7:2-5.

Reference; Reasoning From The Scriptures.<<<<<<<
information or help on how to improve your relationships and General way of living, Visit JW.org.

6Goddess In Tanzania

“Oh my God, I really don’t wanna miss my flight” I said to the driver, it was 11:40something and I was still like 30mins away from the airport. I got to the airport and spent another 30minutes in airport traffic, finally made my way through to the counter and was told I’d already missed the flight and was shown where I could reschedule my flight. This cost me over $150 just to reschedule to the following day which was a Monday.

Quickie: Things To Note When Traveling To Zanzibar

  • First, You need a passport valid for six(6) months with atleast two blank pages
  • Take care of your flight itinerary, ticket or tour operator package receipt
  • Two passport photographs recently taken
  • Visa is issued on arrival
  • Visa fee

  • $100For US passport holders

  • $50 For Non US Passport Holders

  • Immunization for yellow fever, others include Tetanus, Diphtheria, Polio, Typhoid, Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B, Malaria, Rabies And Menigitis
  • Certificate for yellow fever
  • For malaria, talk to your doctor about how to prevent malaria while traveling. You may need to take prescription medicine before, during and after your trip this prevent malaria, especially if you’re visiting low altitude areas.

Monday morning I made sure I was up very early, the ATM had seized my dollar card the previous day, hence I had to make a quick trip to the bank to get cash before heading to the airport

Quickie: Never leave anything you’re supposed to do before you travel to a day before or on the morning of your trip.

Alas! All was done and I got to the airport in good time, checked in and boarded my flight.

We took off at noon and had a layover in Addis, Finally arrived Zanzibar at noon Tuesday;

My friend Angie (travel blogger and birthday mate) the solo traveler was already there since Sunday and had made all the preparations to make this trip an amazing one.

I didn’t take the warning about taking precautions against malaria seriously ( knowing that I just treated malaria three(3) weeks before) I thought that was enough to keep it far away from me but it wasn’t and this affected the output of my trip to some extent as I was unable to make the safari tour. Yes this made me quite sad but I bounced back quickly knowing there will be many other safari tours to come.

Read about my birthday dinner with Laadi in the next post.


Thursday 7th Of December, 2017.,was one of those hot harmattan days when the sun is so scorching and the air is dry; it was the day of Fabulous New Trends Boutique And Bridal couture grand opening at No. 1 Euphrates Street, Maitama- Abuja,Nigeria.

Fabulous New Trends is a boutique owned by the honorable Mrs Eva Erokoro , before meeting her in person, I’d actually heard tales about how she’s really good and takes care of others but i didn’t take it to heart until I met her. She’s indeed a lovely lady with such zeal and passion for creativity and fashion; Her lifestyle and thrive in youth empowerment is enlightening and highly encouraging.

Mrs Eva Erokoro has been exceptional with other humanitarian activities she’s been involved with, We need more people like her to help make our society a better Place. I am also proud to brag about My dearest friend Valerie Solomon being the manager of this grand establishment here to serve you with cutting edge fashion and style at very pocket friendly prices with lots of choices to pick from.

It was a busy Thursday and the rush was like any other busy day, I arrived at the event, made my way through the shoppers in the Sale section downstairs and went all the way to where the goods were upstairs; I was greeted by Valerie Solomon along with couple of the beautiful staffs of Fabulous New Trends that I’m familiar with. We exchanged pleasantries and I just couldn’t get my eyes off the pretty fashionable pieces all over in the store, I got this lovely kimono and a YSL purse I can’t wait to rock.

Then I took a selfie which turned out to be the only picture of myself I managed to like as you know I’m still dealing with my “camera shyness”.

More pictures of happy shoppers were taken I interacted a little, had the opportunity of meeting Fatusi Olamilekan one of the Photographers who covered the event, and the wonderful pleasure of meeting the mistress of ceremony Jennifer; she had this lovely crotchet faux loc packed in my favorite style and a nice neon and black patterned dress with a sassy slit on the side. And of course, Sir Timmy the one and only master of ceremony in Abuja was to give this special event his mastery touch and it was filled with lots of games eating, and drinking courtesy Cocktails By Wush and Co.

We enjoyed the resident Disc jockey Rojay alongside other artists like Disktriktmatters who also performed There was more eating and dancing… It was indeed a grand opening… if you missed the opening, do not despair; be rest assured that you can always visit at No. 1 Euphrates Crescent Off Aguyi Ironsi Crescent, Maitama, Abuja, Nigeria. There’s something for everyone ranging from men fashion to women fashion to kiddies and bridals.

For inquiry you can call +2347065810020


  • Photographer- Deejaykay Photography
  • Sir Timmy
  • Jennifer
  • Fatusi
  • Dj Rojay
  • Cocktails by wush

Special Thanks To;

Mrs Chiejina ( Savannah Suits)

Mrs Yetunde Chollom

Mrs Mabel Taiye Segun Bello

Mrs Philderma Garrick and,

Mr Akinrinola David Olatosho For attending this grand occasion.


Hello MSJ Lovers… I feel like since my first post we started an affair. An affair between MSJ and her readers whom she calls her Lovers. The kind that’s based on enjoying the various stages of growth in Life and remembering to live and  rule the moment whilst trusting the beauty of the journey; The Race Of Life. 

Four days ago I announced the pre- launch of MSJ INSOMNIA SILK PAJAMAS.

Today I am pleased to announce that you can now order and purchase your silk pajamas HERE

  • Send an email to msjlifestyle@gmail.com with your choice of insomnia silk pajamas, preferred color and accurate measurements.
  • or you can follow us on Instagram and twitter @msjlifestyle
  • we also take orders on our WhatsApp line +2348065336306 12noon -3pm Mondays-Saturdays.

As stated in previous post, this is a small start up, only 100 sets are projected to be made for now on insomnia, 23sets have been sold leaving 77 more sets available.

Target Market

For every woman out there both young and old who is confident and sexy in her own skin and every man who’s proud to see his lady rock the insomnia pieces.

Insomnia pieces

short set

Price List:

short set – $42 

gown – $34

robe – $28

complete set  (short set, gown, robe) – $99 instead of $104 with Free Delivery within Abuja city.

short set with robe – $67 instead of $70

gown with robe – $60 instead of $62


Note that these prices are like this due to cost of production in Nigeria and these prices can decrease as cost of production decreases.

Major target consumer

Insomnia is made to make your bridal showers and pajamas themed party look more glamourous and luxurious.

For large orders, please order two-three weeks prior to use.

Official launch party is in February 2018. 

Now you are ready to shop the MSJ Insomnia Silk Pajamas… I look forward to your patronage. Thank You And God Bless.


Models: Paulyn, Joyner, Valerie

Makeup Artist: Mishdoo

Photographer: Double O

Brands: MSJ and Simmi 

My First Fringe Soirée By LeRouge

It was one of those Sundays when everything is slow and gloomy, mostly because you woke up late and missed mass.

This particular Sunday was the 4th Of November, 2017.; It was Aysha Umar ‘s Birthday, ( one day right after Bobo’s). I went to her room to check up on her and wished her Happy Birthday then I asked “what did you plan to do today for your special day?” That’s when she got up with so much enthusiasm and said ;

“There’s this fringe soirée I’m supposed to attend this evening, if you’re interested we can go together.”

She picked up her phone and showed me the ad on instagram.

Immediately my eyes caught a glimpse of the page I was hooked, I collected the phone and kept scrolling through all those fascinating pieces and I replied with so much excitement ” yes I would love to go, what do I need?” She then showed me her own Lerouge piece, I tired it on so many times… I felt so chic in them I wanted mine. So Aysha called Lerouge and we drove down to the store and picked up this beautiful fringe mini jacket…on our way back I started thinking of what to pair them with as the party was just two hours away. I had this lovely Ohpolly two piece I was supposed to rock in Zanzibar but I got hit with malaria ( story I will share with you another time) and couldn’t, so I decided to pair them with Simmi sandals and I had the perfect faux fur purse from Debby’s (I’ve owned this clutch for two years now)

We got back home and started getting ready immediately, Finally it was time to party, we arrived the venue pretty late, fortunately there was still enough to eat and drink (you know the food always call on to me, lol #foodie) .

I met so many interesting people including Wilson the guy that shot MSJ silk pajamas prelaunch photoshoot ,He took some nice photos of me…

I also met some cool bloggers like Onyinye and Mrs Ro

Meeting these bloggers inspired me so much and I admire their creativity a lot.

I took a few pictures with my Nikon D3200

Aysha made her birthday wish and cut her cake for everyone to eat and enjoy, I ate both the chocolate and red velvet, drank some punch and danced a little. We made many more snaps and took more pictures

Thanks to Peter Chris for these lovely shots.

Finally we called it a night and I went home to prepare for work as the next day was Monday.

I must say it was the best $98 I ever spent on a Sunday noon and it was worth every cent.


I stay awake at night a lot, I don’t sleep that much and as an Animal Scientist I must say I can’t deny not being aware of the effects of Insomnia.

Insomnia is a common sleep disorder that can make it hard to fall asleep, hard to stay asleep or cause you to wake up early and not be able to get to sleep.


Symptoms Of Insomnia

  • Difficultly falling asleep at night
  • Waking up during the night
  • Waking up too early
  • Not feeling well rested after a night’s sleep
  • Daytime tiredness or sleepiness
  • Irritability, Depression Or Anxiety
  • Difficultly paying attention, focusing on tasks or remembering
  • Increased errors or accidents
  • Worrying about sleeping before bedtime

*This quickie was brought to you by Maya Clinic

Insomnia can sap not only your energy level and mood but also your health, work performance as well as quality of life. One would say knowing all these; why do you still lay awake at night and I would still answer “I don’t know” oh I do know…it’s my burning desire to take my finances to a more steady and consistent phase; Financial Security.

Anyways, good to know all those laying awake at night didn’t result to nothing. For behold an idea was borne that consummates the very meaning of Insomnia.

A silk Line Of Pajamas Set.

If you’re not going to be sleeping at night because you have to stay up studying, researching, working or creating something that improves your lifestyle and that of your loved ones, you deserve to wear something elegant and comfortable.


Silk is an animal derived fiber produced by the larvae of insects undergoing complete metamorphosis, other insects such as web-spinners and raspy crickets produce silk throughout their lives. The process of silk production is known as sericulture and these involve several steps.

Extracting raw silk starts by cultivating the silk worms on mulberry leaves. Once the worms start pupating in their cocoons, there are dissolved in boiling water in order for individual long fibers to be extracted and fed into the spinning reel.

To produce 1kg of silk, 104kg of mulberry leaves must be eaten by 3000silkworms and it takes about 5000 silkworms to make a pure silk kimono.


China and India are the highest silk producers in the world.

Other countries include; Uzbekistan, Brazil, Iran, Thailand, Vietnam, Democratic People’s Republic Of Korea, Romania and Japan.

Without further ado…

I announce that this is the pre-launch Of MSJ’s silk pajamas line called Insomnia.

Working on this project has taught me a lot about being an Entrepreneur.

Creating Insomnia has been time, money and mentally consuming but thanks to Pinterest, ideas can be easily executed into reality regardless of societal limitations.

One key thing I learned about being an Entrepreneur is that you have to be willing to take Risks.

The down part is that it can also be frustrating especially when things don’t go as planned despite all the efforts put in but you’d find that every roadblock is an opportunity to learn and create something better thus new ideas are borne.


Due to minimal staffs as this is a small start up, production will be solemnly on preorder and only 100sets are projected to be made by this line Insomnia.

For now all orders will be taken via emailing. However we are working on a much easier way you can place your order with one click.

To Grab Yours.

Preorder your MSJ silk pajamas by sending a mail with your detailed measurements and preferred color to msjlifestyle@gmail.com

You will receive an email confirming your preorder with our range of pajamas set within your reach to pick as you wish.

The reason we ask for detailed measurements is to make this piece of nightwear bespoke to your body…leaving you feeling comfortable, warm and sexy.

However we don’t start working on orders until the official launch which is slated for the 21st Of November, 2017.

Care: To be dry cleaned and gently steamed with a press cloth.


Silk is a poor conductor of electricity and thus susceptible to static cling.

All prices will be revealed on launch day.

Thank you very much as I anticipate your positive support and feedbacks.


Muse : Ms Joyner Agida

Makeup artist: Mishdoo

Photographer: Bigwillzphotography

Outfit : Rosarie and Luemorevogue

Hair : FrankAbbey

Fabrics : Bur

Reference: Wikipedia, Pinterest and Google

24 photos, Different Emotions;One Feeling…

Let me tell you a story about a black girl with 24 pictures and Betrayal…

Betrayal is an unavoidable human experience that exist amongst man and a very complex topic to write or talk about beacause of varying circumstances…; circumstances dependent on our personal tolerances for uncertainty and emotional pain that differ…

How betrayal affects you is mostly controlled by how you choose to react…; you could either let it be one that may help you move toward deeper wisdom, maturity, growth and transformation (which we all know rarely comes without pain) 


You could be judgemental, bitter, envious, resentful,hateful, and filled with all the toxic feelings you don’t need.

When betrayed, we feel traumatized as it is a feeling that catches you totally off guard and threatens the (false) sense of security we project on others. Feelings associated with betrayal includes; uncertainty, Insecurity, vulnerability, rejection, anger, sadness, risk, vicious, impulsive, complexity, hurt, weakness, secrets, arrogance, violated trust and sorrow 

Most people will usually hurt you in attempt to heal themselves, A series of betrayal puts us in a situation where we need to discern what’s best for us…it’s complicated 

  • Uncertainty Or Ambiguity 

A damaging aspect is that our sense of reality is undermined, all of a sudden what felt like solid trust suddenly crumbles; our innocence is shattered and we’re left wondering… what happened? How could this have happened? Who is this person 

  • Insecure Or Guarded 

In some situations, we may not have contributed to the betrayal but in other cases, we may be reeling from a devastating loss, it becomes rather easy to succumb to the role of a victim and refuse to explore whether we had some part in creating a climate ripe for betrayal.

  • Naked Or Strong

Experiencing betrayal invites us to be kind and gentle towards ourselves and our pain. Allowing us this beautiful opportunity of falling in love with parts of ourselves we never thought existed; those parts of ourselves we only see in the people we(‘ve ) love(d). 

  • Hurt Or Satisfaction 

How I triumph over betrayal is by inculcating in myself and cultivating the very attributes I thought I saw in the betrayer and embracing it as a part of myself who’s learned her lesson,accepted it and moved on 

  • Sad Or Calm

  • Sorrow or Relief 

Betrayal in its many forms can be cure in effect, the universe rite to passage that ushers us forward to a brighter understanding of what love is and what love isn’t ; what helps love grow and what destroys it. 

  • Rejection Or Choice 

  • Anger Or Composure

Way forward;
Learn to express your needs and wants more assertively and communicate in a more authentic way. 

  • Unique Or Normal 

I’m not the average girl from your video and I ain’t built like a supermodel but I learned to love myself unconditionally because I am a Goddess“. 

  • Risk Or Exposure  

Therapy offers you time and space to analyze, review and dwell on your actions to see where you were wrong and how a different reaction to things could have made a whole lot of difference.

  • Courage Or Arrogance 

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind“.  

  • Chance Or Plan  

  • Confidence Or Pride

She wears strength and darkness equally well, the girl has always been half goddess, half hell. 

  • Convalescent Or Weak 

  • Revealing Or Secrets

  • Hope Or Despair 

Regret from the betrayer may offer some hope for healing, But you know it never comes when you expect it or it never comes at all, so you try to move on somehow and it makes you cold in certain way.

  • Impulsive Or innocent 

  • Vicious Or Sensitive 

  • Respect Or Love 

Darling you’re a goddess and once you know what that means, I pray for anyone who tries to hurt you.” 

  • Clarity Or Complexity 

What keeps me going is knowing that things would change and it was a question of keeping myself together until they did.

No one can ever be you except you! So Be Yourself In All Your Glory…!!!

Credits :

  1. Mishdoo 
  2. OO Charles Photography 
  3. Von Hair
  4. Nina Simone
  5. Dr Seuss
  6. Dr John Amodeo PhD
  7. Indie Arie 
  8. Lincoln Briggs 
  9. Valerie Solomon 

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