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Featured post

The Alluring Dome

It is a beautiful day.

I hope you, my msj lover have had a splendid week thus far? i intend to make it feel better with this giveaway review and my quarry is The Dome.

Quickie: A giveaway review is a review i do for hotels, restaurants, lounges and bars, and other exquisite outlets i admire, which i patronize with the sole intention of promoting pro bono for now. After these promotional coverages, appropriate charges may be applied.

The Dome And Its Lure

The Dome is an affluent hotel, designed in its grandeur to accommodate all sorts of entertainment and leisure activities.

Located in the Central Business District, N-Glory, Plot 423 Cadastral Zone, Federal Capital Territory, Abuja, Nigeria.

It is a multi-million naira establishment fully equipped with sporting activities like the six lane bowling, snooker, soccer table, an outdoor swimming pool, and a gymnasium.

But as you know me, i am always here for the food. I’d been to the summit restaurant before, but this time i decided to feast at the paradisio;


this is one of four compartments the restaurants are divided into; others include Noni’s Pizza Parlour, Twins Cafe & Bakery respectively.

Due to the hotel utility, dubbed The Francis Hotel winged with the deluxe, mini and penthouse suite, they run a 24/7 hour service accompanied by bars and lounges stalked with fine dining wines and a large stock of beverages ranging from mocktails to cocktails of one’s choosing.

My Dining Experience

I brought my gaiety with my adorable cousin Ameh,

and my compelling photography companion, Hanz ; so this was alot of food.

I had the grilled tilapia accompanied by basmati side dish and a tropical mock tail to go with.

Ameh had grilled chicken that was adroitly spiced, seasoned to relish, with fried rice and french fries side dishes, accompanied by a glass of cranberry to crown.

Of course i tasted it, what kind of foodie would i be if didn’t share a bite from everyone’s plate? 😂.

Apparently the type of chicken he ordered comes with complementary fries and we were clueless prior to, hence the double side dishes. Hanz however had peppered goat meat, fries and coke.

I think by now, it is safe to say he is such a boring eater.

My tilapia was skillfully garnished,

unfortunately not as spicy as I’d requested. It was clear Hanz pretty much enjoyed his meal as no chip was left over.

Service was top-tier

Our attending waitress was particularly interested in our needs. She kept giving us updates until our food arrived, basically 20mins for the guys and more for me because my grill was a whole tilapia which i found very impressive.


  • The establishment is atleast a decade old in the business of rendering service management. They recently re-branded with a face lift i hear cost about 200 million naira and relaunched in May 11, 2018 prior to an in house opening in February with Vice President Yemi Osinbajo in attendance. So it is clear that this is a home for socialites & capitalists with exclusive clientele of very important persons.
  • Asides from the fact that the owner, big time investor Mr Obiora Okonkwo is a Baron known to be a huge supporter of the entertainment industry in Nigeria. This is evident in his interview with Thisday where he referred to the entertainment industry as the new oil.
  • Last Saturday, an all white themed Moët & Chandon grand day party was held there, graced with loads of entertainment & fashion magnates. Unfortunately i was unable to attend, so this is one deets i do not have for you but from what i saw on instastories and instagram feeds, it is a party i am not pleased to have missed… hopefully there’ll be many more of such parties to attend which is where i draw consolation.
  • It is located in the heart of central area, therefore makes for a perfect business meeting with fine menu and key relaxing features.
  • The chefs

creating the magic were right behind us with such busting flavours

to savour until our meals arrived.


  • Do not sit outside if you intend to order meals that would attract flies like fish.
  • Digital cameras are not allowed without prior arrangement or permission taken via or from the right personnel/channels.

Otherwise, you’d have to put up with one Ms Joy who will come to tell you “we don’t allow pictures here” in the most condescending manner ever possible.

I told her i was an Influencer and content creator for luxury brands, thinking it would get her to chill out. And that these pictures were basically going to be used for free advertising of The Dome brand and she benightedly told me, “you are supposed to pay us for advertising” i found that statement very ignorant as per her knowledge of the roles of influencers in this business. Her response left me further amazed,

Thankfully i was rescued by their head of media, who clearly knows what he is doing and appreciates the role of influencers in such establishment. Eventually she got on-board after being made to see that all i was doing was to promote the place and not perturb the privacy of her patrons.

Overall, my companions and i had a swell time, our meals cost about eighteen thousand Naira & change in total ( 18k in Naira is equal to $50 ) but it could have been better. Imagine me getting a two night stay in the deluxe suite accompanied by an all access to the Camelot spa & Body Trust Fitness as compensation in such miscellaneous establishment, i’d be feeling myself like Beyonce.

Meanwhile, did you guys see Beyonce’s body movement in Apesh-t ( A track from the joint album by The Carter’s Everything Is Love ) a deliberate dance story in a Louvre museum highlighting some unique pieces that shows the sexualization and vigor of black women’s body in contemporary art whilst denying them their deserved accolades and recognition. This album is a must listen, a tale of a black revolution history being told in the background of another unfolding. Long may The Carters reign.

So if you haven’t visited The Dome, don’t take my word for it, your own exposure will be more important for you to achieve; this is an involvement that will leave your mind grounded to luxurious dining in Abuja.

Below are contact details for any further information you might need that i am unable to provide.

contact Details

Reception: 09 – 2907087

09 – 2907084




Sales & Marketing: 09099600908

Email: info@thedomeng.com

Don’t forget to bear in mind the pros and cons in order to better absorb the pleasantness of the ambiance

and top-notch services.

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The Exhilarating Adventure Of Kayaking


I’m pretty sure most lager beer drinkers familiar with a particular Diaego brand read that sub-heading as Orijin a Nigerian alcoholic drink made from African fruits and herbs except it doesn’t contain barley or hops like most beers.

Ok Let’s focus; Kayaking.

Kayaking unknown to many is one of the safest water exercise in the diaries of water adventure. Kayak which translates verbatim to “hunter’s boat” was believed to have been created thousands of years ago by the Eskimos; they made their boats using rib cages and bones of animals with the skin of seals as the body furthermore with the objective of fishing and hunting animals on the shoreline. It did not become a sport or commonly known until mid 1800s when the Germans and French sought to be part of the action. And in the Berlin 1936 Olympic Games Kayak was introduced as a sport for racing on white water which slowly made its way to National Stadium in the Federal Capital Territory, Abuja – Nigeria.

It was my first time kayaking on Thursday and at the time I had very little knowledge about the sport even though it is no.6 on my wanderlust section of bucket list. That list is basically filled with water and high jumping adventures.

We made our way through the quiet stadium, this is one resource I am afraid the federal government has allowed to rot away slowly, with minimal or barely no maintenance at all. And to think they pass away opportunities that would bring life to, and generate resources for the stadium to facilities privately owned.

The path through to the kayaking section looked abandoned and less frequented. The grass area looked like it has been begging to be mowed and the foot path was barely visible as grass roots seemed to be growing over. The whole environment was discouraging at first but the adventure spirit animal in me was not gonna deter until she crossed off kayaking on her list.

I’ve always been scared of water, even though i started sailing the seas at an early age due to Daddy’s profession ( May His Soul Keep On Resting Peacefully In The Love & Bosom Of The Good Lord, Jehovah – Amen ). My fear is borne from the utmost deep respect of how water existed before all, and everything else was created, and how God used it to destroy the first world living only 8 people in survival; to top it all, there is no life without water.

Anyways, my companion and i got to the ticketing, and we were opportune to see three others who also came kayaking, their presence lifted our spirits more, as ours did theirs, they didn’t have cash so we had to share with them while they transferred the equivalent.

Quickie: Ensure to go with cash as the kayaking section is managed and maintained by a native and there is no ‘point of sale’ machine (POS) or any other form of sophisticated option for transaction except cash only.

We interacted a little bit, getting to know each other before we all hit the waters together while the native prepped our boats and neccessary equipment required for the kayaking. He was such a pleasant man, he showed us how he had cleared the area in expectation of our visit even though it was unannounced, he had an adolescent also assisting him. It looked much like they are the only ones that keep and maintain the kayaking area afloat.

Finally, he was ready and it was time for us to hit the waters. My nerves were racking. He got into one of the boats and demonstrated swiftly with such flexibility how we were to paddle the waters whence seated in our kayaks. We got suited up in our personal floating device ( PFD ) commonly known as life jacket. After which we were aided onto our kayaks, it was a sit on top type and stability and balance was highly emphasized.

I could feel my whole body shaking while being pushed onto the waters, but i was also loving the adrenaline being produced by my nerve racking excitement, one of Dickson’s sisters screamed out of fear from the rush she got and i knew i wasn’t alone. My companion didn’t wanna get into his boat, he kept yelling “i can’t swim” and all four of us replied in unison “me too” as neither could we. He finally got in and in the first five minutes we were playing on shore until we got comfortable

and unconsciously started going farther into the deeper areas of the water.

Soon we all forgot we couldn’t swim and began to enjoy ourselves to the point of taking wakanda pose pictures.

We selfied and did snapchat some more.

In 40 minutes, my companion who was hesitant in getting in had circled all the edges of the water;

His zest reminded me a lot of Atticus’ words that says “what good are wings without the courage to fly?”

He just needed a little encouragement and when we did, he flew beyond our expectations meanwhile, most of us couldn’t go beyond the middle.

At the end of the ride, my arms felt like i’d be doing armday at the gym and my waist, a bit cranky from sitting, in the way squatting would feel. So not only did i have such intense fun, i crossed number 6 off my list and got a workout session as bonus.

So for those of you procrastinating this activity for fear of drowning let me clearly state from experience that “it’s not that deep” and you can do it, achieving this, is only gonna show you how much more you are willing to try or go to enjoy your life or fulfil your goals. I hope to hear your experiences soon.

Quickie: important facts to note about opening hours and cost of ride per hour.

They are open everyday except Sundays.


Fare For Week Days : Almost $3 ( 1000 In Naira )

An on the weekends : 2000 In Naira.

If you have any questions for me or want to talk about anything you don’t wanna leave in the comment section, you can reach me via instagram DM here or here .

Thank You For Reading Through To The End, and catch you another time on another interesting share.



The Cube Cafe Recced By Joyner Et Hanz

It was supposed to be an 11am breakfast date that turned brunch. I was just looking for a good place to enjoy a decent breakfast that I didn’t cook. Hanz thought The Cube Cafewould be better, I agreed seeing that most of the “instagrammers” who had been to the alternative; only talked about yoghurts and salads, which we both agreed, couldn’t serve our purpose since we were craving more, And this would require a proper cafe to deliver. So we made the decision to end up at The Cube Cafe

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while driving to town. We got to Maitama Amusement Park, Where The Cafe is located in,

Cafe, cube cafe, style, beret fashion, french fashion, african fashion, red bag, white jumpsuit, black beret

16 Usuma close, Maitama, Abuja, Nigeria.


This is not a review, just a personal share, contributing on how to help MSJ Lovers pick wonderful places they can dine luxuriously and get their money worth.

The Cube Cafeis an eccentric Art and Coffee shop, owning such enticing menu displayed like an artwork on canvas with its architectural detailed touch.

Art shop, coffee shop, bookstore, book stores in abuja, books

The decor was pervaded in African culture and style that can be widely admired by many, even across Europe…, incorporated with contemporary arts in the most authentic way.

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It had this aura consistent with many French/ English cafes but distinctive in its uniqueness.

As most MSJ Lovers know, I am an obsessive tea lover ( The love is infused in the aroma before the taste, That is what makes me love tea… that soothing smell of ease and relaxation). They had such wide range of teas,

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a timeless experience one needs to embark on personally, and not just reading off a chart, blogpost or a choice made hastily. I couldn’t decide between the many options set before me with such limited time so I settled for a cappuccino,

And a full English breakfast,

Fry up, ulster fry, english breakfast, bacon, eggs, sausages, baked beans, tomatoes

colloquially known as Fry up to go with.


A Fry up or Ulster fry as the Irish would say, is an English breakfast consisting of eggs, bacon, sausages, baked beans, stir fried or grilled vegetables, depending on serving outlet, and bread.

Platter, table spread, wooden dinning centre piece

Some people prefer to have toast, pancakes or waffles to go with, as opposed to regular buttered bread.

Hanz had hot chocolate,

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and a pan au chocolate.

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I loved my meal and so did he. It tasted as expected and appropriately, my eggs were perfectly executed sunny side, with slices of juicy stir fried tomatoes to garnish. The sausages had an intriguing aroma and thankfully the bacon wasn’t bland.

Bread in hands, hands in frame, bread, sunny side

My satisfaction was expressed in the clean sweep I gave my platter, I felt so proud and fulfilled. I bragged about it to the owner. To think this cost me barely $14 ( that’s like 5k in Naira ). I had more photos taken of the phenomenal ambience, thanks to my companion whose photography skills in capturing simple details is overwhelmingly astonishing and inspiring all the more. He said The Cube Cafemade him feel like home; by home he meant the UK. And I, in-turn added that it made me feel like I was in a French-African Cafe,

Girl on phone, black beret, beret fashion, french fashion, african style

waiting for my prince charming to come sway me away *smiles* a girl can dream.

Anyways, before I get carried away like Donald Glover’s ( A.K.A Childish Gambino ) Gwara Gwara dance in “This is America” a representation of pop culture while reality was unfolding in the backdrop, If you haven’t seen the video, then I suggest you should visit YouTube fast…

Let me share the opening hours of The Cube CafeBefore I sign off for today.

Girl out the door , stepping out, outdoor cafe

They are open every other day except Mondays.

Tuesdays – Saturdays : 10am – 8pm

And on Sundays : 11am – 6pm.

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Needless to say, the landscape is awe-inspiring and all nature lovers will find peace with this environment if they paid as much attention. I hope to hear your experiences soon, and Please let me know what teas you enjoyed, so I could try them the next time I am there, which is most likely to be, on Sunday for yoga.


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ography by Hanz<<<<

Know Your Wine

Look at you, so gorgeous and dark. With your red velvety restful aroma pulling me closer and making my palms twitch with excitement, and so much anxiety as I lifted the glass up filled with your essence. I took a deep breath and inhaled strongly, it smelled like chocolate that had been buried in liquor and left in for a long while, with such contrasting flavors of leather and cherries. The smell was so sensual I couldn’t wait for my palate and my brain to make the connection of what it tasted like. I licked the droplets off my lips from the first sip, swirled the rest of the content in my glass and had another long sip. Omg I love it, I screamed and geeked out like “a girl who’s just won an all paid expense luxury trip to Greece.” It tasted like Tempranillo grapes, dark chocolate, cherry (Agbalumo), and liquor decided to make a baby together with a touch of oak and created Rubis, I thought to myself as I sat down there savoring the deliciousness my mouth was just filled with.

Rubis was the first nonvintage red wine I ever loved. I’d always been a white lover, and many times friends and acquaintances who had such experienced exquisite taste in wine selection would make me try various red they loved, I thought they were cool but I always loved my white more whether it is still or bubbly.

Loved ones and friends who are so aware of my undying love for wine would randomly call me about wine choices, they are often confused about which wine would grace their palate and/or impress a particular admirer who is a wine enthusiast and they required my help so they don’t look like patsies. I always felt it was just general knowledge and anyone who liked wine would know but some of us do indulge a little more than others hence our peculiar interest in the subject of wine. Today I wanna share those tips acquired over the years, thanks to Bobo… I have had the privilege of dining on some really fine wine which, thus increased my experience.

Simple Tips In Making Wine Choices

We cannot learn those tips that would leave us feeling like a wine whiz, without recognizing basic wine lingo, and types of wines that are commonly known.

Wine Lingo


This refers to the acidic level of the grapes, the wine was made from.


This is the lingering taste of the wine on your palate after you have swallowed or finished drinking the wine. It is also known as finish.


This refers to the smell of the wine, mostly used to describe non-vintage wine or young wines.


Common term is Dryness. This is the degree of dryness of the wine. When it is dry, it may not necessarily be sweet, with sugar content as low as less than 5% in most cases. It is commonly red and those that do not enjoy sweet drinks can opt for this style.


This refers to how the wine feels on your palate and mouth. Basically, a wine is said to have heavy body when it is thick, and rich. A light body wine, however is light, and thin.


This is closely associated to aroma, essentially used to describe the scent of older wines.


The combination of fruit, tannins, and acidity is responsible for the balance of a wine. A well balanced wine is the perfect combination of all three components.


A blend in wine, is created by using more than one type of grape in its complexity to produce a final result. Combination of blend is, Cabernet Sauvignon, Cabernet Franc, Merlot, Malbec, and Petit Verdot.

Blind Tasting;

This is a chance to experience, evaluate and guess the type of wine relying solemnly on your palate with no prior knowledge of varietal, year or style of wine.


It is used to describe the different variation of unique aromas, flavors, and taste.


This is a process of pouring wine from one container into a decanter, this allows oxygen to enter, and bring out the flavor, and aroma.


This refers to the flavor of wine due to high tannins.


One major quality is responsible when a wine is said to be earthy, the kind of soil that the grapes were grown in, rich soils are mostly likely to produce a mineral-like quality in taste.


This is found on the labels of the wine indicating where the grapes were grown. Estate or Estate bottled simply means the vineyard the grapes were grown.


Presence of strong taste of fruits, like berries, cherries, apples, stone fruits et al.

Note: that a fruity wine doesn’t necessarily mean sweet. Dry wine can be fruity.


Could be barrels or chips and it is responsible for taste profile which indicates the fermentation process of the wine.

Oaked, Unoaked Or Stainless Steel;

This refers to storage containers used in storing wine while it aged, prior to bottling. Key word; Fermentation.


Oaky taste due to fermentation or aging process.


Exposure to oxygen by decanting, or swirling it in your glass, this process transforms the wine flavors.


Palate is unique to you. This helps you determine what flavors you like best. There is no right or wrong answers when it comes to different taste in wine, it all depends on what your palate enjoys the most. Personal preference is what makes wine dinning so special.


This is a term used in referring to a wine expert on a wine tasting tour or steward in the restaurant, they hold all the deeds you need to know about wines in most established places.


Wine style has to do with the combination of the color, taste, alcoholic strength and several other factors including region of production, climate, soil conditions, grape varieties et al.


It is a process of exposing it to oxygen to bring out the flavors and aroma of the wine.


Tannins are compounds ( polyphenols ) which come from stems, and skins of grapes. This gives the wine a dry-mouth feeling and generally fadeswithage.

High tannins = Dryer taste.

Low tannins = Lack of dryness, meaning more sweet.


This means wines made basically from a single named grape variety, this information is usually displayed on the labels along with style, and year of wine.

And Finally,


Year in wine can be vintage or non-vintage, and this signifies the year the grapes which the wine is made from, was grown and harvested. Vintage refers to a single specified year while non-vintage is a blend from produce of two or more years.

Now that we are conversant with the basic wine lingos, let us progressively move to…

Types Of Wine With Examples Of Grape Varieties

  • Sparkling Wine; Champagne, Prosecco.
  • Light-bodied White; Pinot Grigio, Sauvignon Blanc.
  • Full-bodied White; Chardonnay, Viognier.
  • Sweet White; Riesling, Rosé

Note that Rieslings are mild.

  • Light-bodied Red; Pinot Noir.
  • Full-bodied Red; Cabernet Sauvignon, Merlot, Malbec.
  • Sweet Red Wine; Port.

So much knowledge shared and gained thus far, now let us see how we can put all these information into…

Tasting Like A Pro

To make this very simple and easy to remember let us make it, the rule of 5S;

  1. See: Look at what you are about to drink, notice the color, note that the color indicates the type of grape used.

  2. Swirl: Swirl the wine in the glass, this allows the wine to breathe or oxygenate, remember we talked about how oxygenating brings out the flavors of the wine.

  3. Sniff: Smell the wine, this is the part most wine chumps will think you are being dramatic or prolly tag you an alcoholic, pay them no mind, be sure to put your nose close to the rim of your glass and smell what you are about to drink. One bad habit my mom complains about me that I have, is the fact I smell everything before I eat it, I don’t care how good it looks, if it smells in a certain way I don’t like or cannot stomach; best believe it ain’t going into my mouth.

  4. Sip: Take a small sip, allow air to reach your tongue during and after your sip to really get the flavors into your palate.

  5. Savor: Pay attention to the flavors and the finish, is it fruity or acidic, and after you swallow, how long does it feel like it is still in your mouth; that lingering taste on your palate is the finish.

The most important deed of the 5S rule is how much attention you pay to the wine. It is primarily about how well you can memorize the details of your senses, specifically what you see, smell, taste and feel. Be sure to write down your feed back, did you like it, or was it just blood tonic with fancy name; this is how I describe really bad red wine I don’t like. The blood tonic relation to red wine is a secret my siblings and I have in memory to our inquisitive growing up years. *holds laugh*

Remember to always make a note when you come across a wine you really enjoy, write down the name, its region for example Paarl and the grape variety, was it Chardonnay or Shiraz, put down the winery estate or producer as well. All these information are usually displayed on the label, which I agree can be challenging to read sometimes but it is always worth the knowledge and as time goes on, it becomes something you enjoy, a regular routine to enjoying your wine experience even better. It no longer feels like a chore, you might discover in the process that you like a particular style or grape variety better.

I am a Hypersensitive vinotype ( One of 4 vinotypes ) Personally, I enjoy Chardonnay for full bodied wine and Sauvignon Blancfor light bodied style of wine more. For red, which is sorta occasionally, I stick to Port, sometimes Merlot. I don’t know if it has to do with the availability or maybe it’s just the frequency of the number of times I’ve had it.

When I am feeling so fancy, I always like to enjoy a good plate of pasta with a nice bottle of sweet red.

My work here won’t be complete if do not mention Some few meals you can pair with wine to have that memorable experience I enjoy as well, so here goes…

Wine And Food Pairing

  • Sparkling wine goes well with fish and desserts.
  • Light bodied white goes well with salads, roasted vegetables, and really yummy desserts.
  • Full bodied white pairs well with chicken or shellfish.
  • Sweet white with desserts and cured meats.
  • Light bodied red goes well with chicken dishes, seafood, and sautéed/roasted veggies.
  • Full bodied red pairs well with red meat, cured meats, red meat pasta dishes, and cheeses.
  • Sweet red popularly known as dessert wine pairs well with mild/soft cheeses and cured meats.

There! I believe my work here is done *smiles with so much pride*

For more professional knowledge on wine I’d recommend John Platter’s Wine Guide since 1980, i was not even born then but I learned this from reading my dad’s cosmopolitan. I have always enjoyed flipping through the pages of a magazine than I did novels.

If you stay in Abuja, Nigeria and you are looking for a place where you can shop wines in all its varieties I’d advice you to visit Next Cash And Carry. If it is a hotel that serves luxurious wines at dinning that would be Transcorp Hilton. And most importantly for a restaurant where you can have the opportunity to experiment your wine whiz skills then I would suggest you visit The Ivory Room, It is a 4.5star restaurant/dinning with a gigantic transparent showcase of wines of different styles.


A Date With Jehovah God.

I woke up feeling blue and sort of hollow… in some moments I felt vibrant but I was stuck in the calamity of my emotions running all over the room. I had this deteriorating feeling of not doing enough with my time, yet I just laid there in bed completely underwhelmed and frantically analyzing all that I had set to do for the weekend but covered only a few.

Gosh! Tomorrow is Monday and i don’t have a blog post ready, I thought to myself.

Lately, I found that I sincerely lost the zeal to do most of the things I used to love doing, the other half required money I didn’t have, I thought while rolling my eyes as if they were meant to be seen by someone else. I withdrew completely into myself, constantly turning down requests and invites to dates and hangouts.

I hated so much being in the solitary of my room, my zone… It reeked of depression and somehow in my twisted phase I also loved it, i loved the idea of being away and not having to deal with social pressure, dishonest people and social media requirements which i have had to put up with in thelast couple of months.

Sick!!! I would think to myself and out loud I would say; “Jo, this lifestyle is highly unhealthy”. I could feel my zeal and passion for many things withering away slowly as I could no longer handle the frustration of trying different things, different ways and still not getting desired results or “progress” I thought to myself. The pressure was so bad that, Alas! I found solace in the knowledge of death and its oblivion, i didn’t fear the thought… it was more like a relieve and my loved ones that i would leave behind and how they would handle the news was my concern but my senses are woken up by Williams Shakespeare, I could hear his voice in my head faintly… screaming at me so dramatically as though he were directing one of his plays;

“Cowards die many times before their deaths, The valiant never taste of death but once.”

I came back for a bit,as my alter ego could not stand me being remembered as “a Coward” and my soul would not let me damned like that. But this is not a day Julius Caesar or thegoodquotes could prevent from unfolding, I stalked Gemma Troy and R.h Sin some more hoping they would pull me out and keep my focus, but not all the inspirational and motivationalquotes could make me move a muscle.

I laid down there more hours unable to eat, bathe or have any positive thoughts. Apollo tried to lick my feet to get my attention occasionally, but I rebuked him so hard he withdrew to himself and stayed in the parlor, away from my sulky toxic mood. I thought about my financesand criticized myself heavily for not having a more solid plan but…

The truth is that i was doing the very best within the capacity of my moral grounds but somehow i couldn’t be encouraged by this fact.

I felt more downcast and realized I was hurt, miserable and hollow and I couldn’t place why in the world I was letting myself feel this way.

Suddenly my phone rang and I was back to earth, I’d been lost in so much negative space, I did not realize my phone had been ringing.

I saw four (4) missed calls and a text from my mother and Lincoln respectively, just as I was about to access the details, my phone started ringing again and on my screen it was Sis Confidence; she was calling to remind me of My appointment with Jehovah for 4:30pm. She had been calling since since Thursday, and in the moment of nothingness and absolute chaos of negative emotions running wild; her persistence was the rope that pulled me back to reality away from the depths, in the well of my brokenness.

Up! up! she pulled me away, out from those feelings I shut out and try to pretend and act like everybody else that they don’t exist

When we know the negativefeelings are as active as the positive ones; it’s just the one you feed the most that grows over the other, but the negative ones are always there waiting to itch like Poison Ivy.

It doesn’t mean anyone stops existing at any point in time because they are both rooted in your soul like the knowledge of good and bad, Like God and the Devil. They are both real. I let the phone ring off the hook then I called her back, she apologized for waking me up and I said not to worry, knowing I wasn’t sleeping in reality… I was just buried within my head.

She said; “I hope I will be seeing you today” Her voice was so warm and cheerful yet so strong and patronizing at the same time. I answered yes! Most definitely. Like her warmth had somehow been “convected” into me; and all of a sudden an excitement of the hope of looking forward to a rich fulfilling evening with God, filled my soul and my heart ached with joy from starvation of real and practical spiritual Healing. (Healing will be discussed in the next blog post)

I wore a blue dresswith four combat looking-like pockets with two gold-press buttons, one to each side on all fours respectively, with one button each on the turn-up sleeves. I wondered if I had hoped the pockets would hide the shame of how broken and sad I’d felt most of the day and hoped the gold details would remind me of the compassion, hope and illumination her warm voice had brought to my blue Sunday.

I was 15mins late but Confidence stood at the door with such smile as though I were someone so important, she hugged me and showed me to my seat where I was surrounded with so many others who looked so illuminated like they lived in different world with no worries at all, other than the one you and i live in. Like this chaotic world was just a brush off on their shoulders.

” I am so glad you made it” i heard faintly as i returned from analyzing the gleeful people i was surrounded by;

And a much louder voice got my attention as i realised everyone else was focused on the podium, listening attentively to the message the speaker was sharing, He was talking about God’s Love and made references from the article which everyone had spread across their phones and pads… i went to the app Jw.org to access my own copy and was assisted by my lovely host.

What Kind Of Love Brings True Happiness

This was the title of the article and it was laced with carefully picked, thought provoking questions like;

  • How can we avoid loving ourselves too much?
  • Why are people who love money not truly happy?
  • What can help us examine our view of pleaures?

Each question asked had several Bible passages denoting the words written in the article of study.

Within the pages were more questions that made me look and analyze my life and that of others i’d been involved with… the more the study went, the more i realized the source of my brokeness. Although in the eyes of the world my life seemed very good and i wasn’t doing bad for myself at all but i felt incomplete because i had let my hustle for money in satisfying my pleasures grown more than love for my God, my creator, hence i wasn’t fulfiling my God-given purpose and i was leading two seperate life not in unison but when i made God the solefoundation, suddenly everything else became much clearer. I suddenly knew what to do and how to divide my time without feeling like i was not doing enough or doing too much and not getting enough. I now understand what it means to give unto Caesar what belongs to Caesar and to give unto God what belongs to God.

The world we live in is decaying day in, day out, and God is the only one that can save Mankind through the sacrifice of his Son Jesus Christ. But sadly alot of people don’t know or believe God and that he does exist. While others that know, like me,are carried away with the things and struggle of this world. While some may have been robbed by religious sects or groups and have consequently lost faith in God And His Word.

But this is no excuse, God expects that we acknowledge his love and existence by the way we conduct ourselves as he is evident in all the wonderful things he created which is all around us and in our care.

All Religious gatherings in the name of God are only meant to remind us, reinforce and re-echo God’s words and promises until his kingdom comes.

The meeting ended with a laudablesong which they all sang harmoniously followed with closing prayer, i was so glad to be in attendance, said my goodbyes and left with deep reflection, i was amazed at how everything was right there, because i had clogged my life with the wrong kind of company and mymind with the wrong perception about who i am supposed to be and who God is to me. I missed it all. The more and deeper i reflected; remembering each bible passages that had been cited, the lighter i felt as the pressure of being sociallyaccepted so as to promote my “hustle” suddenly became lighter, more or less like nothing as it kept re-echoing in my head, that in all things that i do, let it be something that would bring praise, glory to God and preach his love for mankind.

If, in all my good graces i was so wrong like this, i thought; i feel i have to share myrevelation just so, those willing to reflect and enjoy a positive rich life can also adjust and benefitaccordingly. I intend to keep congregating with Jehovah Witnesses because I love how they preach, teach and are thought to conduct themselves, organize their lives, respect themselves, authoritiesand those around them. I hope that with time i will be able cultivate the discipline and attitude required to be known and call myself proudly as one of them.

For More Information about Jehovah’sWitnesses, visit JW.org


Isa Israel

Isa Israel is an African Designer with a versatile vision,

based in Lagos state, the city known as the heart of business and lifestyle in Nigeria. I have known him for eight years now and we have lots of mutual friends in common. We all call him a different name from what he’s known by. His style was unique and modish like a guy fresh out of a music video, like a Chris Brown or Drake kinda video with a swank.

He sold the best contemporary wears to most of the trendriest and coolest kids on the block and many who patronized him always looked ritzy because as far back as then, i remember how he would travel from Benue to Lagos then through to Abuja and he would always return with the dopest fads in vogue for his ever loyal clienteles who couldn’t wait to get their hands on the goods, myself included lol, sometimes i would even send my money before he arrived for fear of missing out on the freshness before the “Abj peeps” would make them SOLD OUT. He was very passionate about clothes and took his business seriously.

Soon after he moved to lagos where he founded Tastemaker Fashion Agency. He’s been known to work with artists like Rapcheff , Runtown , Yung6ix, Mr Eazi, Iceprince Zamani , Dj Neptune, and co. creating and styling their wardrobe for photos and video shoots.

Later, He launched his first collection called,

The Monotint Collection under his company brand; The Tastemakers. As usual they were unique and consistent in their originality and i did not hesitate to cop four pieces of this collection for myself. The colors, and texture of the fabrics were spiffy, it was so impressive that i reached out to him about doing a piece for the blog… he accepted and we got down to business… i have been a big fan of his hustle and fashion career for many years now, still got some nice jeans and watches i got from him back in the day and this felt like the right thing to do as this is a way i can share in promoting his art, brand and vision internationally, to also testify and assure you of the quality of this brand.

Isa To The World…

I see fashion as a way of expressing yourself and individuality without having to say a word – Isa

These were his words regarding his definition of fashion.

  • Why did you choose fashion design as a career?

I didn’t really choose fashion design as a career path, it just kinda happened overtime as a result of me doing something i am very passionate about; I have a Bsc in Political Science he added. He talks about what he likes, being a designer and what he doesn’t but emphasis was laid on his favorite part which is,

The fact that i get to imagine something in my head and i am actually able to bring it to life and it looks really good… besides the idea of fashion being a medium of making a living

  • Who are your favorite designers both local and abroad?

I don’t really have a lot of favorite designers locally, although Mai Atafo is good at what he does, internationally I’d say Virgil Abloh, Gosha Rubchinskiy, Jerry Lorenzo, and a couple of streetwear designers too.

He first discovered his passion for fashion as a teenager and refers to himself as a streetwear designer and he draws his inspiration from his environment, everyday life and basically the internet. ” I go on fashion blogs and i have my eyes on the streets as regards to what’s hot and liable to trend.”

Isa describes his personal style as laid back,

eclectic, and he is motivated by the desire to create, and sometimes the messages he tries to convey with his work. He created his first collection in 2014 (Monotint collection) and he’s been able to put out seven (7) collections in total. His target market is basically the youth and streetwear enthusiasts.

  • How would you relate past and present fashion trends?

“Trends recycle, there’s no much difference between past and present trends, just modified stuff.”

  • What are your goals and where do you see yourself in ten (10) years?

One of my goals,is to create an African brand that is not restricted to African culture and shores alone, a brand with global apeal; In ten years i see myself at the peak of my career, probably being compared to international brands.

And so may it be, i added.

  • Tell me about an accomplishment you are most proud of.

I am proud of the fact that i have been able to put out series of sold out collections and my clientele base.

  • How do you handle arrogant clients, and how well do you take criticism?

Tolerance… if you are not being criticized, it means nobody is noticing, I believe it comes with exposure.

I nodded frantically in agreement and threw in my final FAQ.

  • What skills would you say are important for a successful career in fashion design and what is your advice to upcoming designers?

I’d say creative thinking and fabric sourcing and my advice to upcoming designers is; stay innovative, keep working and stay in your craft.

“Happy now?” he said to me and i replied beautiful, can’t wait to publish with a big gr(in/een) that is if you know what i mean…XO

To see more or purchase any of Isa’s collections, you can do it Here


Outfit Of The Day; #Hello Monday.

Hello MSJ lovers, it is a new week and hope you are feeling as vibrant, refreshed and excited as I am today. For me, it was such a brief weekend with so much to do… unfortunately i was unable to accomplish all the tasks and goals i had set for the weekend but i draw consolation in the fact that i was able to attain the top five (5) to-do on my list of weekend routines which were very important as they would have affected the positive vibes of my week should i have failed to.

Sadly as laundry is something i am not such a huge fan of, i was unable to accomplish this task and it comes with such weight bearing on my chest; because anytime i pick up any outfit from my wardrobe, i remember how i am yet to sort previous laundry thus the idea of how much this is gonna increase the pile… sigh!

If only someone could sow a seed of Samsung Washing Machine in my life, lol.

Away with the sulky feeling of unaccomplished task and set a time to get it done without hesitation and without procastination is my advice to me and to you today, if you’ve got such unfinished business as do i. Try to focus on goals achieved more, as they tend to motivate me to complete all other unfinished business.

Two Major Goals I Feel Most Fulfilled To Have Achieved ;

  • My Saturday Hike With My Infamous Naija Adventurers group and;
  • A Date With Jehovah God ( I promised my twitter follwers last night that i would share all the deets within the week and that i shall.)

These routines set the tone of my week and i feel highly rejuvinated and strong to know i am ready to take on whatever the week throws at me whilst trying to accomplish my goals for the week.

Without any “shenanigans” let us talk about the outfit of the day…

There is such beauty in the way you can incoporate your OCD into your style and simplicity becomes amazing in all its glory, i decided to go with white, blue and black with a touch of red on my bottoms to complement my Hermès bag.

My red bottoms i got from Debbybodyshop like 4years ago which ofcourse is still serving me.

My shirt on the other hand is custom made by iisa Isreal this was one among four (4) pieces i got from his Mono Tint collection.

This Hermès bag however is one of my most treasured designers as it was gifted me by someone i admire and look up to greatly; i will never forget this kindness he showed me and in the time he did… May God Continue To Bless Him Abundantly.

My white aphrodeity pants however i got from Razor Sharp; i like the fitting so much i bought three (3) of its hotpants (navy blue, sky blue and white), i did thesame with the pants respectively, i added black and grey making it five(5) and eight(8) aphrodeity in total, crazy right? i know… i can never resist succumbing to my force of nature and habit; consistency, durability, reliability. Most times i like to think that if i had my way or rather if didn’t wanna freak my love ones out, i’d actually be like Monk, “wardrobe wise” (if you haven’t seen the series Monk then i am afraid you will miss the reference… it is one of my favorite series of all time.*smiles*) All though i am so glad my OCD is nothing compared to his.

I dare not forget to mention my furry bestie whose expertise is photobombing, But would never pose when told to; my loving #ASA (Apollo Snow Agida)… For complementing me so beautifully. For a moment i got carried away with all that affection he throws at me, i must confess i am very attached.

For a more formal or corperate look, you can achieve this by substituting white pants for plain black pants and with this look you are ready to take on any task and can waltz into any corperate zone/setting ready to be great.

There!, you now know how simple it is to create outfit of the day, so go out there and make you and myself proud.

Have A Splendid Week… XO


Shaggy And 6goddess At #JBC

I’m not going to even say so much about how awesome this day went…i’m just gonna let the scenery and the view

tickle your imagination about the kind of day i must have had, especially since i spent it with Shaggythementalist

As we’re both stout lovers we started by ordering a bottle each,

i wanted extrasmooth but they only had african special and medium stout so i had medium and amstel malt, it won’t give you that extrasmooth rich smoothness in taste but atleast it works in the absence of the preferred.

We drank, made more snaps and took many pictures…

Finally food arrives…

i had fried rice and barbecued chicken,

i love the abundant sauce dripping off with the sprinkled sesame all over it…

the sour smokey taste is what i love the most about the chicken, which is why i always eat their chicken with anything else.

The food wasn’t the greatest but considering that it’s a new spot, let’s just say there’s room for improvement…

but you know me once i find a meal on the menu that i enjoy about a place, be rest assured that’s the only meal you will see me eating there until someone suggest there’s been change or improvement in services or maybe they just have that one meal they also come to eat that’s as good as mine.

we enjoyed our meal, caught up some more…

took more pictures

and moved the party elsewhere.

This is a good tourist location,

Woodhouse boat club and restaurant

Jabi Boat Club is a woodhouse bar and restaurant with incredible ambiance; this makes it a perfect spot for outdoor birthday breakfasts, luncheons, and family dinners. It is also children friendly.


Other Activities Include water adventure.

Address: 26 Alex Ekwueme Way, Nera Hotel Waterfront, Jabi District, Abuja, Nigeria

Post Code: 900001

Enquiries: #jbc

Mobile number: +234 808099289

Friendship With A Scorpio Called Joyner

“I Am Not A Regular Girl…”

I Always Tried To Fit In A New Circle Or Place But Even That Crumbles Eventually… This Is Rarely Due To My Strong Personality Or Maybe It Is; I’ve Been Told My Confidence Can Be Intimidating.

Zodiac Signs Don’t Tell You Exactly How Someone’s Gonna Act All The Time But They Give You A Topography Of Their General Feelings And What Drives Them.

As A Scorpio;

I Love Intensely, I Am Brutally Honest And Extremely Loyal, Doesn’t Mean I Get This Reciprocated Often But I Don’t Change Because This Is The Very Things That Make Me Who I Am; 6goddess!

Even If I Wanted To, I Wouldn’t Know How To Be Anything Else. Things That People Go Through Hell And Back Just To Achieve, I Get It Without Breaking A Sweat;

This Is Not By My Might, It’s By The Grace Of My Divine Father Jehovah And I Am Always Grateful Which Is Why I’ve Dedicated My Life To Him.

He’s Always Faithful.

And Things People Get Without Breaking A Sweat I Have To Fight Tooth And Nail For. The Most Common Example Is Something I Offer Freely, Loyalty. My Loyalty Is Unwavering But I Have To Fight The Devil Everytime To Get My Due.

My Mystery

Leaves People Creating Different Impressions Of Me And I’ve Been Many Things To Different People.

The Ones I Showed My Dark Side I Feel Truly Sorry For, Because I’m Always Gonna Be That Scar On Your Heart…

And The Ones That Have Felt My Love In Its Depth, May Not Like It But Are Stuck With Me For Life Because They Know Deep Down They Can Never Feel A Love Like This With Anybody Else.

I Am Unique

Took Me Too Many Tragedies And Betrayals To Finally Understand What This Means. I Am Fully Aware Of My Power And Weakness.

I Do Not Crave The Regular Things My Peers Or People Around Me Crave.

My Alter Ego Always Likes To Stand Out.

I Yearn For Spiritual Depth As It Is The Only Way To Balance My Mystery Without Seeming Insane.

Don’t Try To Understand Me Just To Love Me, (Even I Can’t Tell You I Absolutely Understand Myself)

Love Me And You Will Find Out All That You ‘Need’ To; I Do Not Make Friends Easy Because I Am Self-Sufficient,

It’s How I Was Raised.

I Am 6goddess And I Believe Not Everyone Is Worthy Of Me.

But If You Do Call Yourself My Friend, I EXPECT Certain Things Like Your Loyalty And Support. ( I Don’t Expect It To Be Unwavering Because That’s My Part ) But I Demand It! Otherwise; What Is Friendship?

Friendship Is A Complex Topic Hence The Reason This Post Is Gonna Be Split Into Three(3) Parts And Will Be Spaced Over Time.

  1. What Is Friendship And Its Benefits?
  2. Types And Kinds Of Friendsip Both Positive And Dysfunctional.
  3. Divorcing A Friend Whether Good Or Bad.


This First Part Of The Post Is Basically Gonna Be The Shortest Of Them All, Due To Preamble.

My Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary “Special Price Edition” Specifically The 6th Edition Defines Friendship As A Relationship Between Friends. It Further Defines Relationship As”The Way In Which Two People, Groups Or Countries Behave Towards Each Other Or Deal With Each Other.”

You Won’t Believe The Example Sited In The Usage Of Friendship Has My Name In It, Amazing Right? I know; The Universe Has Its Way Of Always Being In Tune With Me.

Anyways My Favourite Definition Is That Of Wikipedia (I Love Wiki Because Its Facts Are Authentic). It Describes “Friendship As A Relationship Of Mutual Affection Between People, It Is A Stronger Form Of Interpersonal Bond, Than An Association.

Friendship Is A State Of Mutual Trust Between Two Parties. For The Sake Of Clarity, Let Us Define The Word “Mutual”

Mutual, Used To Describe Feelings That Two Or More People Have For Each Other Equally, Or Actions That Affect Two Or More People Equally. Key Synonym Is Reciprocal.

Who Is A Friend?

Different People Make Different Friends For Many Reasons. A Friend: Is A Person With Whom One Has A Bond Of Mutual Affection,Typically One Exclusive Of Sexual Or Family Relations.

So If Someone Calls You Their Friend Or You Call Them Your Friend And It Appears One Seem To Be Offering More Than The Other, That Right There Is Not A Mutual Relationship ( Unfortunately This Is The Kind Of Friendship That Prevails In Our Generation.

“Don’t Support Me If You Don’t Want To, It Won’t Negate From My Friendship With You. Believe Me, It’s Not An Obligation. I will Give It If I Decide To. Support Isn’t Demanded; It’s ‘Earned’, It’s A Choice That Should Be Freely Available To ‘Anyone’ To Decide. ‘People’ Should Not Feel Obligated To Supporting You, You Only Have To Ask And If They Say No, Respect It. And That’s Even On An Holistic Level.”

These Were The Words Of An Aquaintance Whom We Happen To Have A Lot Of Mutual Friends In Common Said To Me When I Complained About Not Being Supported As Much As I Have Supported Her.

Newsflash: It Does Negate Friendship Beacuse Every Word In That Statement Defiles The Meaning And Respect Of The Word FRIEND!

The Irony Is That This Aquaintance Has Used The Word Friend With Me Many More Times Than I Can Ever Recall Referring To Her As That, If I Wasn’t Quoting Her, Yet I Support Her In My Own Little Way Absolutely.

Quickie: An Aquaintance Is A Person One Knows Slightly, But Who Is Not A Close Friend.

You Know My Response To That Statement? *In Mila’s Voice* I Was Too Shook

And I Literally Had Mila’s Expression In My Head When I Said;

Don’t Insult Me And Call Me “Friend” And Still Type All Those Things Up There, It’s Not Very Nice Beacause That’s Not How I Treat People I Call Friends.

It Was A Clear Insult To My Intelligence Because As Stated Above, Friendship Is A Mutual Relationship And Every Line She Said Negates The Mutual Respect Calling Someone Your Friend Demands.

Quickie: Demand, An Insistent And Peremptory Request, Made As If By Right. Synonym; Request, Call, Stipulation, Urge E.T.C

I Admire This Girl Alot I Thought To Myself, I Love Her Amazing Work Ethics, Her Passion And Her Zeal To Break Grounds And Forge Ahead Formidably But Who Does She Think I Am Or Who Does She Think She Is To Call Me Friend And Then Tell Me I Have To Earn Her Support When I Have Given Mine Freely Without Her Asking And I Don’t Even Call Her Friend Yet. Where Is The Mutual Understanding?

I Found It Highly Manipulative ( Manipulative Friendship Is A Type Of Friendship That Will Be Discussed In Part II , But In The Mean Time, You Can Google It To Get An Idea Of My Usage.)


The Major Characteristics Of Friendship Are;

Kindness, Love, Virtue, Sympathy, Empathy, Honesty, Altruism, Loyalty, Mutual Understanding And Compassion.

There Are Many Benefits Of Friendship Generally Expressed That Are Of Common Importance Besides Personal Experiences…Which Are;

  • Enjoyment Of Each Other’s Company.
  • Trust, And The Ability To Be Oneself Freely.
  • To Be Able To Express One’s Feelings To Others And Make Mistakes Without Fear Of Judgement From Friend.

Studies Show That Social Support Gained Through Friendship Improves A Woman’s Prospects For Good Health And Longetivity.

Conversly, Loneliness And A Lack Of Social Support Has Been Linked To An Increased Risk Of Heart Disease, Viral Infection And Cancer (Yes Cancer!!!)

You Know Those “Mini Heart Attacks” A Bad Friend (Another Type Of Friendship To Be Discussed In Part II) Gives You, That You Whisper To Yourself ‘It’s Not That Deep’ Oh Well Darling, Turns Out It is As Deep As Higher Mortality Rates Over All.

Friendship Networks = Behavioral Vaccines. These Behavioral Vaccines Boost Both Phsyical And Mental Health.Good Friendship Improve Health (To Be Discussed In Part II). Friends Encourage Healthy Lifestyles And Directly Contributes To Self-esteem, Self-confidence, And Social Development. Part II Will Shed More Light And Explain Why We Need Best Friends.

Never Befriend A Scorpio If You Can’t Handle The Venom When She Stings.!


  • My Personal Experiences
  • Wikipedia
  • Reasoning From The Scriptures (JW.org)
  • Pinterest

I Will Be Collecting Pro-Pictures Of Best Friends For Part II; So If You Are Interested You Can Send Your Entries To MSJ Special Credit For Goofy Pictures And Real Emotions Applies… Sláinte.🍷 XO.

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